Part
2
A
brief review
B1
Written by Solomon
B2
Solomon is reminiscing about his marriage. I believe that chapter 1
is their wedding night after the wedding ceremony.
B3
The woman character is Naamah, Solomon’s first wife and mother to 3
children—Rehoboam, his son (1 Kings 11:43 and Matthew, Taphath (1
Kings 4:11), and Basmath (1 Kings 4:15). No other children were
listed in Scriptures being fathered by Solomon.
B4
Personally, I feel that, in general, all of Solomon other wives were
for political or business reasons. He didn’t become intimate with
them.
B5
We learned
C1
Sexual pleasure in normal for both husband and wife. Admiring each
other’s beauty is not sinful.
C2
The greatness of being with each other.
C3
Some pointers when you are together, namely
D1
It is a time for just the both of you
D2
Shut the phone off
D3
Shut the TV off
D4
Stop any distraction
D5
It is realistic that interruptions do happen as emergencies or
younger children. But, otherwise, you are spending time with your
spouse.
D6
Listen to her. Listen to him. Do not interrupt. Do not offer advice
or counsel. Shut up and listen. Don’t be reading or doing something
when she is talking.
Notes
B1
Chapter 5
C1
This is a continuation of chapter 4. Song of Solomon 4:16-5:1 GNB
Wake up, North Wind.
South Wind, blow on my garden; fill the air with fragrance. Let my
lover come to his garden and eat the best of its fruits. 5:1 I have
entered my garden, my sweetheart, my bride. I am gathering my spices
and myrrh; I am eating my honey and honeycomb; I am drinking my wine
and milk. Eat, lovers, and drink until you are drunk with love!
C2
Her husband returns home and knocks at the door. She does not get
dressed quickly enough. Opening the door, she finds he has left.
C3
She was worried and longing for him, so she goes out at night only to
be assaulted/molested by law enforcement. Song of Songs 5:7 NLT The
night watchmen found me as they made their rounds. They beat and
bruised me and stripped off my veil, those watchmen on the walls.
C4
The chorus, Daughters of Jerusalem, ask her what is so special about
him?
C5
She responds describing his handsomeness.
C6
Note, she identifies him not only as lover but friend. Song of Songs
5:16 NLT His mouth
is sweetness itself; he is desirable in every way. Such, O women of
Jerusalem, is my lover, my friend.
B2
Chapter 6
C1
The chorus of young women, Daughters of Jerusalem, offer to help find
him. “Where should we look?” they ask.
C2
She suggests the garden area. Song of Songs 6:2 NLT Young
Woman My lover has gone down to his garden, to his spice beds, to
browse in the gardens and gather the lilies.
C3
Solomon sees her and is overwhelmed by her beauty and describes, with
joy, her beauty.
C5
She goes to a walnut grove to enjoy nature.
C6
The Daughters of Jerusalem ask her to return so they can observe her
grace of movement.
B3
Chapter 7
C1
Her husband, seeing her beauty, is overwhelmed. He describes it
honestly.
C2
After his description, telling her why she is so beautiful, she
becomes overwhelmed, too. Song of Songs 7:10 NLT Young
Woman I am my lover's, and he claims me as his own.
C3
They enjoy being intimate in their private garden.
B4
Chapter 8
C1
There is a time for intimacy and a time to refrain. Song of Songs 8:4
NLT Promise me, O
women of Jerusalem, not to awaken love until the time is right.
Consider:
D1
A husband can request intimacy, and the wife can refuse (maybe she is
sick or too exhausted from work, etc.).
D2
A wife can request intimacy, and the husband can refuse.
D3
Sometimes one hears teaching that a wife must always be available to
meet her husband’s sexual needs. This is wrong and evil. It is
practically raping your wife.
D4
1 Corinthians 7:2-5 GW But
in order to avoid sexual sins, each man should have his own wife, and
each woman should have her own husband. 3 Husbands and wives should
satisfy each other's sexual needs. 4 A wife doesn't have authority
over her own body, but her husband does. In the same way, a
husband doesn't have authority over his own body, but his wife does.
5 Don't withhold yourselves from each other unless you agree to do
so for a set time to devote yourselves to prayer. Then you should get
back together so that Satan doesn't use your lack of self-control to
tempt you.
[Emphasis is mine]
C2
The wife explains the strength of love. Let us note it carefully.
D1
Song of Songs 8:6-7 NLT Place
me like a seal over your heart, like a seal on your arm. For love is
as strong as death, its jealousy as enduring as the grave. Love
flashes like fire, the brightest kind of flame. Many waters cannot
quench love, nor can rivers drown it. If a man tried to buy love with
all his wealth, his offer would be utterly scorned.
D2
If a woman is afraid of her husband, then the husband does NOT love
his wife. If a man is afraid of his wife, then the wife does NOT love
her husband. 1 John 4:18 GNB There
is no fear in love; perfect love drives out all fear. So then, love
has not been made perfect in anyone who is afraid, because fear has
to do with punishment.
D3
If your marriage does not seem to have love, see below.
C3
Entering marriage as a virgin is God’s best. Some do not, so do not
freak out about it. You ARE forgiven if you asked God to forgive you.
Song of Songs 8:9 NLT If
she is a virgin, like a wall, we will protect her with a silver
tower. But if she is promiscuous, like a swinging door, we will block
her door with a cedar bar.
C4
Naamah was a virgin when she married Solomon. Song of Songs 8:10 NLT
Young Woman I was a
virgin, like a wall; now my breasts are like towers. When my lover
looks at me, he is delighted with what he sees.
C5
Solomon is identified as the husband.
D1
He has a vineyard that he leases to tenants.
D2
She has a vineyard, herself, that he can have free. She is the
vineyard. Song of Songs 8:12 NLT But
my vineyard is mine to give, and Solomon need not pay a thousand
pieces of silver. But I will give two hundred pieces to those who
care for its vines.
C6
Solomon wants so listen to his wife. He wants to hear her voice and
opinions. Song of Songs 8:13 NLT Young
Man O my darling, lingering in the gardens, your companions are
fortunate to hear your voice. Let me hear it, too!
C7
The wife, Naamah, wants to be with him forever. Song of Songs 8:14
NLT Come away, my
love! Be like a gazelle or a young stag on the mountains of spices.
We
learn
B1
It is OK to tell your wife how beautiful she is from head to toe.
Husbands enjoy your wife’s beauty.
B2
Sex is meant for husband and wife. Both are to enjoy it. Ask her what
is pleasurable. Do not be in a rush.
B3
Togetherness is important. This doesn’t mean just living in the
same house. This means to worship, eat, work, communicate, listen,
pray, etc. together. You must have togetherness. It doesn’t mean
having a date. It means enjoying each other’s company daily.
B3
Communication is important.
B4
The spouses need to know the language of love.
C2
Take the quiz and discover each other’s language of love.
C3
There are more resources here.
B5
Love is a choice. You choose to love. It is not necessarily an
emotion.
B6
The actions of love are found in 1 Corinthians 13. 1 Corinthians
13:4-8a WEL 4 Love
is very patient and kind; love is not envious; love doesn't brag
about itself, is not haughty,
5
Doesn't behave improperly, is not self-seeking; love isn't easily
aggravated, doesn’t keep a list of wrongs,
6
Doesn't rejoice in injustice, but rejoices in the truth,
7
Bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all
things.
8
Love never ends,...